Strength is not just victory but the ability to fail with integrity and take the lessons of losing and weaknesses as opportunities to learn.
- Karen Andes
We have to know, when we lose, stumble, or get hurt, what the lessons are. We have to know how to approach the loss without getting caught up in blame, shame, or criticism of ourselves or anyone else. Because when we don't we judge and criticize harshly. What that does is keep us stuck in the loss.
Instead, lets look for the facts about the loss by placing our emotions aside for the time being. Let us train and support ourselves and each other in the spirit of correcting the course, and focusing on uniting our forces for the good of the whole - be that a family, a community, the planet or simply (and perhaps most importantly) being whole within our own selves. We will find, during this course correction, how imperative it is to tend to the weakest among us. Assisting them in discovering their best is imperative for our evolution. We may have to let go and allow others to walk a different path if we realize their journey is much different from ours. But we must release them with compassion, peace and kindness and wish them well as they move on.
This is how we align with a winning attitude again. When we do this, and we see that each of us is doing our absolute best...it doesn't matter what the score is at the end of the game, or what the result is at the end of an arduous experience. We realize in the end, that through it all we stood strong in truth and we were winning all along.
My son, with his quiet strength and integrity during recent disappointment taught me this.