Step 1) Avoid Potholes (yamas) “Live so that when your children think of fairness and integrity, they think of you.” - H. Jackson Brown Jr.
When we embark on a trip, we need to restrain ourselves from overpacking, stealing the 600 thread count sheets at the hotel (but take the shampoo - they expect that), telling lies at Customs, and smacking our spouse when he or she forgot the passports that they promised they would be responsible for. When we practice restraint in areas of our journey, it makes the rest of the trip more manageable. Patanjali thought so too. He said that when practicing restraint (the Yamas) there are 5 things to consider...
1) Don't be Hating!: not smacking your spouse for forgetting passports is easy. Not wishing harm on him (or her) and thinking they're an udder imbecile might not be. But violence starts from our thoughts. All our wars started when one person thought badly about another person, then that person in turn got all pouty and thought the first guys was a jerk. What are your wars and should you pick your battles more wisely...like not at all maybe.
2) Don't Lie!: at customs when you said you didn't bring food over the border, but really you're packing the most amazing peppered cheese from the country you just departed from. (That may or may not have been a confession...I'll never tell). Carl Jung asks us to check in by asking "What is so dangerous in the moment about the truth that you are choosing to lie?"
3) Don't Steal?: So the shampoo is one thing. But what else do you steal on your journey through life? Do you steal attention? Do you interrupt people? What are you stealing when you do this? Who are you stealing from?
4) Know when enough is enough: 1 or 2 margarita's on the beach in the hot sun...no problem. But we all no what more than that will get you (or perhaps you don't because you practice this one better than me.) But the point is to allow yourself time to enjoy the things you love, including the piece of decadent chocolate cake. Enjoy the hell out of every morsel. Eat it with your eyes closed. Eat it like the way Meg Ryan enjoyed herself in the dinner on When Harry Met Sally. Then when your done. You too will be satisfied and one piece is all you'll need...not the whole cake.
5) Are you a Packrat! - pack light. Deborah Adele says "let go and pack lightly for our journey through life; all the while caring deeply and enjoying fully." Suitcases hold not just our clothes...remember it's called "baggage" for a reason. Don't acquire more and more things in hopes you fill up the void inside. Consumerism is a socially acceptable form of addiction. Get rid of the stuff in your house that's just taking up space. Give it away so recycling can take it's rightful place in your house and within our community. Clear out whatever you don't need anymore and try shopping with more mindfullness